Just a Few Notes From Jennifer

First off, I have decided to stop the voting for the “Top Baby Blog” after I asked them a simple question and they pretty much told me that my readers and I were crazy. I do not for see us resuming anything like that in the near future.

Next, some people have asked me what to get Nora for Christmas. I had a list for me of things that we still need, and I just added a few things to that list. The list is on Amazon, and you can click here to view the list.

Lastly, if you are one of the few people that I have asked to be preasent during the labor part of birth, I will be sending you an email in the next few days. So, keep an eye out for that.

I think that is all I have for now. Thanks! Jennifer

Car Seat Installation

Michael was installing the car seat base last night, and it turns out that the seatbelt on the passenger side is not working in the backseat. So our only choices left would be a middle seat installation or a diver side installation. However, if you know Michael you know that he is really tall, and the only way he can fit in our car is to have the seat all the way back and almost all the way reclined. Which means that the car seat would not fit behind him, so we are left with the middle seat installation.

Safety is my main concern for Nora right now. I looked up the TN Child Restraint Law and here is what it says:

  • “Children under one (1) year of age, or any child, weighing twenty (20) pounds or less, must be secured in a child passenger restraint system in a rear facing position, meeting federal motor vehicle safety standards, in a rear seat, if available, or according to the child safety restraint system or vehicle manufacturer’s instructions. (Note: If the child safety seat has a higher rear-facing weight rating, usually 30 or 35 pounds, it may be continued to be used in a rear-facing position so long as the child’s weight permits. Check the manufacturers instructions accompanying the child safety seat for more information.)
  • Children age one (1) through age three (3), and weighing more than twenty (20) pounds, must be secured in a child safety seat in a forward facing position in the rear seat, if available, or according to the child safety restraint system or vehicle manufacturer’s instructions.
  • Children age four (4) through age eight (8), and measuring less than four feet nine inches (4’9″) in height, must be secured in a belt-positioning booster seat system, meeting federal motor vehicle safety standards in the rear seat, if available, or according to the child safety restraint system or vehicle manufacturer’s instructions. (Note: If the child is not between age four (4) and age eight (8), but is less than four feet nine inches (4’9″) in height, he/she must still use a seat belt system meeting federal motor vehicle safety standards.)
  • Children age nine (9) through age twelve (12), or any child through twelve (12) years of age, measuring four feet nine inches (4’9″) or more in height, must be secured in a seat belt system. It is recommended that any such child be placed in the rear seat, if available. (Note: If the child is not between age nine (9) and age twelve (12), but is four feet nine inches (4’9″) or more in height, he/she must still use a seat belt system meeting federal motor vehicle safety standards.)
  • Children age thirteen (13) through age fifteen (15) must be secured by using a passenger restraint system, including safety belts, meeting federal motor vehicle safety standards.
  • Provision is made for the transportation of children in medically prescribed modified child restraints. A copy of Doctor’s prescription is to be carried in the vehicle utilizing the modified child restraint at all times.
  • The driver of the car is responsible for making sure that children under age sixteen (16) are properly restrained and may be charged and fined $50.00 for violation of the law. If the child’s parent or legal guardian is present in the car but not driving, the parent or legal guardian is responsible for making sure that the child is properly transported and may be fined for non-compliance.
  • Police officers observing violations of this law are permitted to stop drivers and take enforcement action. PLEASE PROPERLY RESTRAIN CHILDREN”

I couldn’t find anywhere on there that says which part of the back seat is safest for children.

We were thinking about taking the car seat to one of those car seat safety inspections, but I don’t know how to find them. So, if anyone has any advice on this, please send me an email or leave a comment on here or on Facebook.


Jennifer, Michael, and Nora

Ultrasound #16

A little about Nora from the visit today.
Dr. Brabson said that she is looking great! They are estimating that she weights right now about 5lbs 9oz, and by birth she will weigh around 8lbs. I am starting bi-weekly appointments next week due to all of the issues that have presented themselves during this pregnancy. Dr. Brabson just wants to make sure that the placenta is doing an adequate job and would like to do an non stress test (NST) as well. I know I have 3 more ultrasounds scheduled right now.

We took a tour of their birthing facility today, and it was really nice. I am really happy that I decided to switch doctors now. If you come to visit us when Nora comes, please call first Michael or me first so you can get the code to the elevator and parking garage.

When converting the video to upload to YouTube, I could not get the true part one to convert or just upload, so we are starting with the true part two. That’s why it looks like it starts in an odd place. Be sure to look out for her beautiful face and the pictures of her legs we got.

A Little About Nora at week 34!

Week Thirty Four: Rapid growth continues

You are 34 weeks pregnant. (fetal age 32 weeks)

  • Your baby now is approximately 18 inches long and weighs about 5.25 pounds.
  • Baby is now 46cm crown to heel and the weight is 2400 grams.
  • Your child has now an excellent chance of survival outside the womb.
  • Fat accumulations plumps up the arms and legs this week.
  • Eyes opened when awake and closed when sleeping.
  • The fingernails are now completely formed.

Even babies born earlier than this could survive outside the womb with hospital support although the risk of complications would be high. Your baby may have already turned to a head down position in preparation for birth. The skull bones are still pretty flexible and not completely joined to help to ease exit out of the narrow birth canal. Fat accumulations plumps up the arms and legs this week. The baby’s skin is also becoming less wrinkled. Braxton Hicks contractions may be getting more numerous and stronger. Thanks to antibodies crossing the placenta the baby is developing immunities to mild infections.

Pregnancy Today
Your baby’s digestive and intestinal systems are fully functioning now, although they will continue to mature until about the age of 2. Her first bowel movement (meconium) is ready and waiting to be passed and her lungs are nearly fully developed. If she were to be born now, she’d have a 95 percent chance of surviving without any medical help. This is reassuring to know!

Her fingernails now reach the end of her fingertips, and once she’s born you may be surprised at how long (and sharp!) they are. The placenta reaches maturity and starts to age from this week onward, but it will still continue to do its job, providing your baby with nutrients and oxygen, until the birth.

Baby Center
Your baby now weighs about 4 3/4 pounds (like your average cantaloupe) and is almost 18 inches long. Her fat layers — which will help regulate her body temperature once she’s born — are filling her out, making her rounder. Her skin is also smoother than ever. Her central nervous system is maturing and her lungs are continuing to mature as well. If you’ve been nervous about preterm labor, you’ll be happy to know that babies born between 34 and 37 weeks who have no other health problems generally do fine. They may need a short stay in the neonatal nursery and may have a few short-term health issues, but in the long run, they usually do as well as full-term babies.

The Bump
Baby’s now the size of a honeydew!
Baby can recognize and react to simple songs…time to start practicing your lullabies! In fact, baby will recognize frequently sung tunes after birth and probably find them soothing. Less cute news: She now urinates about one pint per day. Get the diapers ready!

“Becoming Babywise” The Book

I keep hearing a lot about this book “On Becoming Babywise”. So I decided to look it up on Amazon.com to see what it was all about. Here is what I found

    “The infant management concepts presented in this book have found favor with over two million parents and twice as many contented babies. On Becoming Babywise brings hope to the tired and bewildered parents looking for an alternative to sleepless nights and fussy babies. The Babywise Parent Directed Feeding concept has enough structure to bring security and order to your baby’s world, yet enough flexibility to give mom freedom to respond to any need at any time. It teaches parents how to lovingly guide their baby’s day rather than be guided or enslaved to the infant’s unknown needs. The information contained within On Becoming Babywise is loaded with success. Comprehensive breast-feeding follow-up surveys spanning three countries, of mothers using the PDF method verify that as a result of the PDF concepts, 88% breast-feed, compared to the national average of only 54% (from the National Center for Health Statistics). Of these breast-feeding mothers, 80% of them breast-feed exclusively without a formula complement. And while 70% of our mothers are still breast-feeding after six months, the national average encourage to follow demand feeding without any guidelines is only 20%. The mean average time of breast-feeding for PDF moms is 33 1/2 weeks, well above the national average. Over 50% of PDF mothers extend their breast-feeding toward and well into the first year. Added to these statistics is another critical factor. The average breast-fed PDF baby sleeps continuously through night seven to eight hours between weeks seven and nine. Healthy sleep in infants is analogous to healthy growth and development. Find out for yourself why a world of parents and pediatricians utilize the concepts found in On Becoming Babywise.”

But then I started looking at the reviews for the book. It looked as though this “babywise” book and parenting style had some issues with the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), and of course I wanted to know why.

Matthew Aney M.D with the AAP stated that this could lead to failure to thrive, dehydration, poor milk supply failure, and slow growth and development. A Forsyth Medical Hospital Review Committee, in Winston-Salem N.C., has listed 11 areas in which the program is inadequately supported by conventional medical practice.

When I done a search on “Attached Parenting” with the keyword warning, here is what came back.

  • Misuse of Slings Can Cause Death
  • A Warning Against Co-Sleeping (which we are not doing anyway)
  • Strenuous and Demanding on Parents

However there were no articles written solely against this style of parenting.

Here are some passage from The Baby Book by Dr. Sears

Should Baby Be Left to Cry it Out?

    New parents often say to us, “I saw a technique on television that advised parts to let their baby cry longer each night until he learned to fall asleep on his own. This approach doesn’t feel right to me. Does it work?”…We have written articles about the cry-it-out controversy, debated it on national television, and for the benefit of tired but vulnerable parents, we have thoroughly researched what is at the top of our hit list of bad baby advice. Here is what we found.

Doesn’t Feel Right

    To learn how parents feel about this question we surveyed three hundred mothers. one of the questions was: What advice do you get from friends and relatives about what to do when your baby awakens at night? The most common advice was “Let baby cry it out.” We also asked mothers how they felt about this advice. Ninety-five percent of mothers replied. “This advice doesn’t feel right.” Our conclusions: 95 percent of mothers can’t be wrong, and there is real confusion created by the advice a mother hears and what she feels.

It Sells

    We interviewed publishers and TV producers who print and air this approach. Their defense: “It Sells. Parents want quick recipes and quick results.” Moms and dads, there are no quick fixes, no crash courses on baby calming and baby sleeping…

Missing the Real Cause of Night Waking

    …The cry-it-out advice often covers up medical causes of night waking. In our pediatric practice, we frequently see infants who wake up at night because they are hurt, often from a medical condition such as gastroesophageal reflux.

I think that parents should be aware of this “Babywise” book and sleep trainers, I don’t think they are as beneficial as they were intended to be. Also, it goes against every mothering cell in your body when you let your baby just “cry it out”.

Just my two cents.

A Little About Nora at Week 33! YAY!

Week Thirty Three: Lanugo is disappearing

You are 33 weeks pregnant. (fetal age 31 weeks)

  • The baby inside you is now about 4.4 pounds (2 kg) and around 17.5 inches (44cm) in length.
  • The diameter of the head is about 8.5cm.
  • The baby fuzz, lanugo, is disappearing.
  • Your baby drinks about a pint of amniotic fluid a day.
  • You may gain a pound a week (500g) for the rest of your pregnancy.
  • Half of your weight gain will go directly to your baby.

The baby is using it’s lungs to practice breathing by inhaling amniotic fluid. Your baby is drinking about a pint of amniotic fluid a day now and urinating the same amount. The early baby fuzz, lanugo, is disappearing now and being replaced by actual hair. The nails of your baby are now long enough to reach to the tip of the fingers or beyond and may need trimming as soon as she is born. She may scratch her face even before birth.

You may gain a pound a week for the rest of your pregnancy. Do not stop eating or start skipping meals as your weight increases. Both you and your baby need the calories and nutrition you receive from a healthy diet.

Calcium intake is extremely important during pregnancy because the baby will draw calcium from the mother to make and harden bone. This can greatly weaken her own bones and teeth because the developing fetus will take minerals from the mother’s skeletal structure as and when needed.

Pregnancy Today
Your baby’s skin has changed from a reddish color to pink and will be smoother now as he continues to lay down fat. She may grow over an inch in length this week, and there’s probably more baby than amniotic fluid in your womb now. As a result, you’ll feel every prod or kick she makes more than ever!
Her immune system is able to give her protection from mild infections. She’s still receiving antibodies from you, which are important, and will continue to do so after birth when you breastfeed. She may be in a head-down position ready for birth now. Your doctor will check to see whether this is the case and, if so, how engaged her head is.

Baby Center
This week your baby weighs a little over 4 pounds (heft a pineapple) and has passed the 17-inch mark. She’s rapidly losing that wrinkled, alien look and her skeleton is hardening. The bones in her skull aren’t fused together, which allows them to move and slightly overlap, thus making it easier for her to fit through the birth canal. (The pressure on the head during birth is so intense that many babies are born with a conehead-like appearance.) These bones don’t entirely fuse until early adulthood, so they can grow as her brain and other tissue expands during infancy and childhood.

The Bump
Baby’s now the size of a honeydew!
Things are heating up inside as well: Baby may grow up to a full inch this week alone, and her brain is developing like crazy. Pretty soon, she’ll be able to coordinate breathing with sucking and swallowing. Also, her bones are hardening, and she’s started to keep her eyes open when she’s awake.

Cloth Diapers

This was part of the Baby Shower gifts for Nora. I wanted to do a separate post for this since the baby shower was over a week ago.
There are:
20 diapers with 2 liners each
5 extra overnight soaker pads
10 Cloth wipes
Bib and burp cloth set
Fleece swaddle blanket
3 sets reusable nursing pads

A Little About Nora at Week 32

Week Thirty Two: Reproductive development continues
You are 32 weeks pregnant. (fetal age 30 weeks)

  • The baby is 17 inches (43cm) long and weighs 4 pounds (1.8 kilograms).
  • The diameter of the head is almost 4 inches (10cm).
  • Under the skin the fat layer is getting thicker.
  • The toenails and fingernails are completely formed.

During this time the baby sleeps most of the day. The uterus is getting to be a small space for the baby to move about, so you may have noticed a decrease in your baby’s movements. The baby is still trying to move frequently but it just does not have enough room. The baby will turn her head from side to side and move her hands.

As space in your uterus becomes more cramped, your baby’s kicks and other movements may seem less forceful. You may want to check on your baby’s movements from time to time and do a kick count.

The baby will now weigh about 4 pounds (1.8 kg). Half of your weight gain now will go directly to baby. If you are carrying twins or more, their weight increase will be slower than singletons because of the lack of room in the uterus.

Are you waddling? This is because the ligaments in your pelvis have softened, allowing your hips to spread in preparation for birth.

Pregnancy Today
This week is a real milestone as your baby’s lungs will have started to produce a substance called surfactant, which stops them from sticking together and helps them to expand. So in other words your baby is more likely to be able to take a breath of air unaided than ever before.

Research has shown that, at this point in her development, your baby is behaving almost exactly as a newborn and will continue to do so from now on. She’ll spend the majority of her day asleep or snoozing while her body gets on with the business of growing and maturing.

Baby Center
By now, your baby weighs 3.75 pounds (pick up a large jicama) and is about 16.7 inches long, taking up a lot of space in your uterus. You’re gaining about a pound a week and roughly half of that goes right to your baby. In fact, she’ll gain a third to half of her birth weight during the next 7 weeks as she fattens up for survival outside the womb. She now has toenails, fingernails, and real hair (or at least respectable peach fuzz). Her skin is becoming soft and smooth as she plumps up in preparation for birth.

The Bump
Baby’s now the size of a squash!
Ready or not, baby’s getting ready to emerge. She’s probably in the head-down position by now, with her bottom facing up. This is the comfiest way for her body to fit in your increasingly cramped womb and will make her eventual exit (only a few months away now!) much easier. (If she’s still head-up, don’t panic — there’s still time for a flip before birth.)