Detergents Are Not Created Equal

I have been trying to decide on which detergent to use for Nora’s clothes. I have always heard that Dreft is the best, but since I became pregnant I have been doing more research than ever, so why should this be any different. So, I looked it up. Did you know that Dreft does not claim to be hypoallergenic? Also, did you know that Dreft does contain perfumes?? That got me to wondering, what is ok to wash Nora’s clothes in?

In my research, I found this wonderful website ( has pretty much every brand of detergent listed that you can think of. First of all I checked Dreft. They rated that detergent with two red stars, which means avoid. Next I checked Purex Free and Clear, which is what we use, and the rating was 3 gold stars. That means it’s pretty good.

I now some people will look at that website and say, well that website is for cloth diapers. If you think about it why would you use something for your child’s cloths and not their cloth diapers? Both are touching your baby’s skin, so why should they be any different.


I think I may have changed my mind about them. I was reading yesterday that giving a child a paci while they sleep can help reduce the risk of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome). I am not happy about giving my child something like that, but if it helps keep my child safe, I will do it. I do not plan on giving Nora the paci until she is 3 or 4 weeks old, and stopping it right after she turns one.

Now if I have to figure out which one to go with.

Birth Plan

My birth plan is now finished. YAY!!!! I know some people will have problems with what I have requested, but that is a common occurrence here recently for me.

Here is a little of my birth plan…


  • I would like to be free to walk around during labor.
  • I wish to be able to move around and change position at will throughout labor.
  • I would like to be able to have fluids by mouth throughout the first stage of labor.
  • I will be bringing my own music to play during labor.
  • I would like the environment to be kept as quiet as possible.
  • I would like the lights in the room to be kept low during my labor.
  • I would prefer to keep the number of vaginal exams to a minimum.
  • I do not want an IV unless I become dehydrated.
  • Other Labor Preference: heperin/saline block is fine for IV


  • I do not wish to have continuous fetal monitoring unless it is required by the condition of my baby.
  • I do not want an internal monitor unless my baby has shown some sign of distress.

Labor Augmentation/Induction

  • I do not wish to have the amniotic membrane ruptured artificially unless signs of fetal distress require internal monitoring.
  • I would prefer to be allowed to try changing position and other natural methods before Pitocin is administered.

Anesthesia/Pain Medication

  • I realize that many pain medications exist. I’ll ask for them if I need them.
  • Before considering an epidural, and if the situation warrants, I would like to try an injection of narcotic pain relief (Nubain, Demerol, Stadol or similar).


  • Unless absolutely necessary, I would like to avoid a Cesarean.

Immediately After Delivery

  • I would like to have my husband cut the cord.
  • I would like to hold my baby for at least 15 minutes before (he/she) is photographed, examined, etc.
  • I would like to have my baby evaluated and bathed in my presence.
  • I plan to keep my baby near me following birth and would appreciate if the evaluation of my baby can be done with my baby on my abdomen, with both of us covered by a warm blanket, unless there is an unusual situation.
  • If my baby must be taken from me to receive medical treatment, my husband or some other person I designate will accompany my baby at all times.


  • I would like a private room, if available.
  • Unless required for health reasons, I do not wish to be separated from my baby.
  • I would like to have my baby “room in” and be with me at all times.


  • I would like to take still photographs during labor and the birth.


  • I would prefer that no students, interns, residents or non-essential personnel be present during my labor or the birth.
  • Other Other Preference: I would like my support people to be present during labor but not delivery.
  • Other Other Preference: Only my husband is to be present for delivery.

A Little About Baby at Week 17

Baby Center
Your baby’s skeleton is changing from soft cartilage to bone, and the umbilical cord — her lifeline to the placenta — is growing stronger and thicker. Your baby weighs 5 ounces now (about as much as a turnip), and she’s around 5 inches long from head to bottom. She can move her joints, and her sweat glands are starting to develop.

The Bump
Baby’s skeleton is hardening, changing from rubbery cartilage to bone, and fat is finally accumulating around it. His umbilical cord is getting thicker and stronger, and those little fingers and toes now feature one-of-a-kind prints.

Pregnancy Today
Your baby’s main job this week is to plump out. She’s now about the right size to fit into your palm, and is developing a layer of fat under her skin. This will help keep her warm after the birth, but for now, your amniotic fluid does the job for her, keeping her at a constant 99.6 degrees Fahrenheit (37.5 Celsius), slightly warmer than your own body temperature.

Your baby is now recognizably either a boy or a girl, with a visible penis and testes or a fledgling uterus and vagina. If you’re having a girl, she already has around two million eggs in her ovaries. Connections are constantly forming in her brain, meaning she has more control over her limbs, fingers and toes. Her blood circulation is well established, and the umbilical cord is becoming thicker and longer to transport oxygen and nutrients into her body. Your baby and the placenta are almost the same size.
You are 17 weeks pregnant. (fetal age 15 weeks)

  • The umbilical cord is growing thicker and stronger.
  • Fetus weight is just over 5 ounces (150g).
  • Baby is about 5 inches (14cm) long crown to rump.
  • and would be about 9 inches (23cm) head to toe, if it could stretch out.
  • The retina has become sensitive to light.
  • The first stools (meconium) are now beginning to accumulate.

They recycle the amniotic fluid by swallowing up to a litre a day. Meconium (composed of products of cell loss, digestive secretion and swallowed amniotic fluid), is accumulating in the bowel. Fat stores begin to develop under your baby’s skin this week. The fat will provide energy and help keep your baby warm after birth.

Baby’s eyes are looking forward now, but they are still firmly closed. The skeleton is tranforming from cartilage to bone. The bones remain flexible to make the journey through the birth canal easier. You can feel your uterus just below your bellybutton. If you put your fingers sideways and measure, it is about two finger-widths (1 inch) below your bellybutton. Your uterus is the size of a cantaloupe.

The crown to rump length of your growing baby is 5 to 5.6 inches (12.5 to 14cm) by this week. Weight of the fetus is about 5.25 ounces (150g).

Tomorrow’s Ultrasound

I am so nervous! Not because I don’t think the baby will “reveal” the “goods”. I am nervous that something might go wrong or the their might be something wrong with the baby.

If you remember back in November, a routine ultrasound was how we found out that our first baby was no longer living, and now every time I have an ultrasound, I am afraid of a repeat diagnosis. I keep thinking in the back of my mind that having this baby is too good to be true!

Please pray that my worst fears will not come true tomorrow, and pray that the baby is doing well. If you want to throw in a little extra pray for the baby to cooperate, that would be nice too. 😀

A Little About Baby at Week 16
Week Sixteen: Facial expressions are possible

*You are 16 weeks pregnant. (fetal age 14 weeks)
*The fetus measures nearly 5 inches (12cm) from head to buttocks.
*The fetus weighs about 3.5 ounces (100 grams).
*The fetus is covered with a protective soft down to regulate its temperature.
*Fat begins to form underneath skin.
*Baby hears external voices, sleeps and dreams.

Your baby has learned to breathe. This is apparent from the regular movements of his chest, inhaling and exhaling small amounts of amniotic fluid. These actions help the lungs to develop and grow. More developed facial muscles may lead to various expressions, such as squinting and frowning. Your baby nows weighs more than their afterbirth. The baby can grasp with his hands, kick, or even somersault.

You are showing more now and have an obvious swelling in your lower abdomen. The rest of your body is still changing. A total of 5 to 10 pound (2.25 to 4.5 kg) weight gain by this point in your pregnancy is normal.

The crown to rump length of your baby is 4.4 to 4.8 inches (11 to 12 cm). Fetal weight has doubled in 2 weeks and is about 3.5 ounces (100g).
Get ready for a growth spurt. In the next few weeks, your baby will double his weight and add inches to his length. Right now, he’s about the size of an avocado: 4 1/2 inches long (head to rump) and 3 1/2 ounces. His legs are much more developed, his head is more erect than it has been, and his eyes have moved closer to the front of his head. His ears are close to their final position, too. The patterning of his scalp has begun, though his locks aren’t recognizable yet. He’s even started growing toenails. And there’s a lot happening inside as well. For example, his heart is now pumping about 25 quarts of blood each day, and this amount will continue to increase as your baby continues to develop.
Your baby now weighs in at a whopping three to five ounces, and he’s four to five inches in length. The bones that are now in place in his ears means he can probably hear your voice as you talk to your partner and pals and sing in the car. While he’s getting used to your voice, the tiny muscles in his body, especially the ones in his back, are gaining strength, so he can straighten out a little more. And thanks to his developing facial muscles, your baby is capable of making a few expressive frowns and squints, even at this early stage. (Don’t worry, those frowns have nothing to do with the sound of your voice!) And his eyes are finally working, making small side-to-side movements and perceiving light (although the eyelids are still sealed). Peekaboo!

Determining Your Baby’s Gender
True or false: A fetal heart rate of fewer than 140 beats per minute means you’re having a boy, while a heart rate of more than 140 beats per minute means you’re having a girl. It’s a notion that’s been making the obstetrical rounds forever, and the truth is…it’s false. Sorry, but while it sounds more plausible (and more grounded in medical fact), this one is about as reliable as holding a ring on a string over your belly and determining the baby’s gender based on which way the ring turns. (If you buy that, there’s a bridge in Brooklyn I’d like to sell you.) There are as many old tales about ways to find out your baby’s gender as there are old wives to tell about them (and try them out at family gatherings). Sure, they’re fun to talk about, but all of them share just one truth: They’re correct in predicting gender 50 percent of the time. If you’d like better odds than that (the kind you can base your nursery-paint colors on), ask at your ultrasound.

Pregnancy Today
This week, your baby will start to blink. She’s growing quickly at the moment, and will double her weight in the next three weeks. Her bones are starting to ossify (harden), with the exception of her skull; these bones will stay softer until the birth, so they can flex as she passes down the birth canal. And she’s straightening out, too, lifting her head and neck into a more upright position.

Your baby’s heart rate has slowed down since the start of pregnancy, but still beats 110 to 160 times a minute, twice as fast as yours. From 16 weeks, you’ll be able to hear the heartbeat via your doctor’s heart monitor, although it’s sometimes possible to hear it earlier. Her heart rate will increase when you laugh and decrease when you’re blue, proving that a happy mom makes for a happy baby.

What’s happening to you?
Any day now, you can expect to feel your baby moving for the first time. First-time moms-to-be generally feel the first kicks from around 16 weeks, but don’t panic if you can’t feel a thing. Some have to wait as long as 22 weeks. And don’t expect big hefty kicks at this stage. Early movements are very subtle, feeling like butterflies, bubbles or your stomach turning over.

If you’ve decided to have the blood test to screen for chromosomal disorders like Down syndrome, it’ll probably be this week. This is also the prime time for amniocentesis, which may be recommended if you’re an older mom-to-be or if an earlier screening test indicated a high risk of abnormalities.